Money. Relationships. Employment. Kids. Am I stressing you out yet?
If there is anything to know about me, it is that I am NOT naturally a person who is good at“time-management.” Growing up, I was very carefree. Spontaneous. Go with the flow. When I took on the responsibility of owning a business at 18 years old, it changed me as I’m sure you could expect.
I’m not nearly as carefree, spontaneous, or go with the flow as I used to be. I’m not saying this is a bad thing, but it’s definitely harder for me to “let loose” nowadays.
I’m not psychologist, but if I had to guess, I’d say that it’s because owning a business means that no matter what happens, good or bad, it falls on me. Now, I struggle with letting things be imperfect. At 18, I went from the girl who was down for anything, whenever, but could pull through and be a leader when the time and place was right, to being a leader 100% of the time. I was ALWAYS on the job, always clocked in, and always “working”.
Somewhere along the way, I lost my sense of fun. My life went from sunshine, mountains, and 10 am margaritas, to charts, graphs, and daily lists. It wasn’t until I learned to better manage my time and my life, that I got a bit of the “old me” back.
Today’s Kaleigh has found a good balance. I’ve always loved lists, but now I make them in the mountains more than at my desk.
Before I keep going, you need to know something. My life is not perfect. Seriously. It’s may be easy to think that when you see my life through the computer screen but it isn’t true. I have imperfections and problems just like everyone else. However, I have found a way to balance my fun with daily tasks but that doesn’t mean that everyday is easy or light.
There is one thing that I struggle with and if I’m not careful, I’ll let it ruin my day, my week, my month and that is WORRYING!
I am a worry-wart. This is a trait that “old Kaleigh” didn’t possess, and “new Kaleigh” can’t shake.
Yes, the charts, my planner, and my lists all help this because the more organized I am, the less I worry, but no number of charts and lists can fully ease that pain.
When I say, “I worry,” I don’t mean I feel a ping of doubt or concern. I mean full on anxiety, can’t eat, can’t sleep, can’t think, can’t function. The only thing that I’ve found that can ease this pain is God.
It seems like a no brainer, but when in a funk of worry, He was the easiest thing for me to forget.
You might be thinking, “Oh Kaleigh, I knew you were going to say that… I don’t really know where I stand with the whole God thing.” Let’s be clear. I’m not going to preach to you, not now and not ever. I’m merely going to tell you my experiences, my thoughts, and what helps me personally. What you do after that, is totally up to you.
If you’ve ever found yourself in the same boat I was in, let me encourage you to try something. No matter where you are with “the whole God thing”, or what exactly your beliefs are, everyone feels worry and lonely sometimes.
Maybe you have a bill coming up and you honestly aren’t sure how it’s going to get paid. Maybe you’re going through a divorce, or a custody battle for your kids. Maybe you recently lost your job. Maybe you’re at a low point with your significant other. Maybe smaller things cause you to worry such as dishes piling up or a dirty car. Maybe you stress about your body image, or what size jeans you wear. Whatever your situation may be, I want you to remember this….
“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes?” Matthew 6:25
God tells us to not worry about tomorrow that each day has enough trouble of it’s own. How true, right? Why do we waste so much time worrying about what may or may not ever even happen, instead of focusing on what we can do to better ourselves right now?
I’ll be the first to tell you, that that is way easier said than done. My job is very high-stress, but every job has its taxing points. I am not perfect, and I struggle with worrying every day, but I’ve set up a plan to help me kick that anxiety to the curb.
Acknowledge. Know that stress IS going to happen. We can’t help it. There are going to be things in our lives that happen and cause us to worry. It’s how we handle that worry that counts.
Analyze. Many times, I find myself worrying about something that really isn’t that big of a deal. Analyze the situation. Figure out what all of the possible outcomes are, and which are the most realistic.
Plan. What can you DO, besides sitting in your bed worrying, to better help the situation?
Pray. Why do you have to carry all the burdens of life on your own? You don’t. You don’t have to have all the answers. The Bible tells us, “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:7
This week, whenever you start to get stressed out, I want you to stop and breathe. Remember you aren’t in this alone and you have the most wonderful God on your side. Look to Him for guidance and answers. Look to Him for peace.
*Jot down the above verse and place it around your life. In your car, on your mirror, in our wallet, on your phone. Put it where you can see it. Remember these words. Remember God’s promises to us and remember you are not alone.
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